In a way, love is a beautiful thing. Although it is not always easy, it is worth a fight. For some students, they come to college thinking they will find their husband/wife. For other students, they just come for an education. Many can argue that being in a relationship while going to school is a distraction. Juggling school, work and a relationship can seem like a lot.
For certain incoming students, they believe that in college they will find their soulmate. For me personally, when I came to Cabrini, I was excited to make friends and thought I would find a boyfriend. In my past relationships, I have dated someone while going to school. From past experience, school dating was difficult due to the fact of time management between one another. We even had to sacrifice our academics just to spend time with each other.
When it became a distraction, I would get into arguments with my partner. At times I would let our arguments affect my day so I would take my anger out on friends. There were moments in class where I would not be paying attention to the lecture because I was busy texting my partner. Although dating in school can seem bad, there are times where your partner can uplift and push you to work harder. Moments when I felt low and felt like giving up on school, my partner would stay up late with me and help me complete my work. When I felt like school was not for me my partner would encourage me to continue with school.
There may be times in a relationship where your partner’s feelings are more important than your own. We forget about the real world and what is going on. We are only focused on the temporary happiness. Love can be a distraction, you focus your priority on a relationship more than school and family. It really all depends on your partner if you are in a stable relationship you have your partner for support. If your in an unhealthy relationship things could go wrong. Mentally you are not focused on the right things. I have friends who have been in unhealthy relationship. They stopped showing up for class they started to flunk classes had a tough time doing homework assignments.
I personally believe that relationships are not a distraction. It all goes back to, as I mentioned, the person you are dealing with. Instead of dating somebody for their looks, take time to know someone mentally and physically. Some people are selfish and do not understand that you have school and work to manage they want you to put them first. Someone who is mature will understand that your studies come first they will even offer you support.
Sometimes in a relationship you are so supportive you forget to push your own self. You are wrapped around the other person that you lose focus. You forget your goals, you forget your purpose, your main focus is that other person. Being in a relationship can steal time and energy. The great thing about being in a relationship in college is the support. You could spend time and hours together to help you balance school. You could also offer each other advice. My advice is that when you are in college focus on your studies, build a friendship with someone who truly understands you and has goals to accomplish as well. When dating, make sure you and your partner practice time management.
